Turning down a sponsor and defining why I write.

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I apologies, I am remiss in keeping up with you. Life has been busy

And I have had allot of reflecting to do and decisions to be made, on top of my normal mommy, wife and grad student duties. Many of you have been asking for an update on the status of the blog becoming sponsored. When I started this blog I never imagined anyone but my family and daughters would ever read it. I never assumed I had something that would touch others or grow into an extended family of support and compassion for the unfiltered peek into my little life. It is because of you, who choose to take the time to read my poorly edited tales and notes, that I was honored with the opportunity of having a sponsored blog. So, I feel compelled to share why I declined the sponsor.

I am grateful to those who read my words and felt I was worthy of such an opportunity. It was with much deliberation and reflection that I decided to decline this opportunity. It all comes down to why I write. I write for my girls, I want my girls to know the beauty of honest, unfiltered words about real life. I want them to understand that there is no such thing as perfect parenting but there is so much joy to be found in the growth you experience as a parent and the honor of knowing such a deep and organic love. I want my daughters to understand the importance of a healthy life and that there mother was far from perfect… but that anyone at any time can take control of their life if they have the will to do so. I want them to have record of some of the moments that forever molded their mother into the person she is, the person who they know as mom.

Unfortunately, I did not feel I could maintain the integrity of why I started this blog, or the values I hold for my daughters and meet the sponsors’s requirements. The fitness section of this blog is important … but for me it is a small part of the big picture, one piece of the whole person. I did not want that to be the sole emphasis of the blog. I am also not willing to “ sell my self”, to make extra income. How can I teach my daughters the value of modesty and self-respect and simultaneously post progress pics on demand and with a dictated amount of skin exposed. How do I teach my daughters that I value, above all ells, honesty and integrity… and fabricate stories to meet the sponsor’s agenda? The answer is I don’t and I wont.

I did not loose my weight and reach my goals with any magic pill or expensive supplements or diet plan. I did it with willpower, and the motivation I found in being the best me for my children. I didn’t always do it right or perfect and my journey was full of cheats and slip ups that led me to value an emphasis on sound nutritional choices and a physically active life. I have been sold the snake oil and empty promises… I have no interest in promoting that for my girls or anyone else who seeks support in taking charge of their health.

I am also NOT perfect! I am human! No one needs unnecessary, skin pics crammed down their throats to find motivation for change. If and when I choses to post pictures of my progress it is simply for affirmation… of what once seemed so impossible, being possible. I don’t want or need to be airbrushed or reach a body fat goal that is not my own. I have extra skin on my belly, form carrying two beautiful girls and I am proud of it. I am also proud that with diligent work and nutrition I can pull my tummy in tight and I have no problem with leaning over or sitting down and seeing the skin that once held my babies as they grew.

In summary I will not be accepting a sponsor at this time. If you follow the fitness portion of my blog, I am honored to be a part of you’re journey of taking charge of your health. I promise you I will not post anything that you couldn’t achieve on your own! I am healthy, strong, honest, unfiltered and proud of my imperfections that make me human. Thank you again for all your support and time in reading my words. Thank you for sharing your stories and questions with me! I am honored to be apart of your world however small or large that part may be.

For my girls, when you are old enough, to one day read this, please take head of how highly I value integrity and honesty. In all that you do, big or small, be nothing but who you are and you will have nothing to regret!!!



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7 Comments on “Turning down a sponsor and defining why I write.”

  1. I’m proud of you.

    I had no idea that they would dictate how much skin you showed. Strange.

    I think when you are open about vulnerable things, it turns out a lot of people can relate. I’m not surprised you have such a great following!

    1. Thank you Rachel! I may not always comment, but I read every one of youR blog post and am almost always moved to tears! It means the world to me that you take the time to read my words!

  2. Amen! Don’t let anyone tell you who you are. You are past all that. No one will ever again dictate “rules” for you to live by. I am so proud of you! Your girls, husband, family, friends, and anyone who has ever known you is proud! Love you 🙂

  3. Awesome post, Emily. I appreciate your honesty. It can be terribly freeing when you allow yourself to be open and vulnerable, to share your successes and failures together, and express yourself as yourself. Keep up the great work. And who knows…maybe someday a sponsor will come along who will reward you financially for continuing to do all the things you do that reward you physically, emotionally, and spiritually without applying all of their own requirements. And if not, that’s okay too, because you already realize how rich you are.

    1. Thank you Matt!! It means the world to me that you took the time to read my post… and even more so that you appreciated it! Love you!! -Em

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